Intimacy Make an Appointment Refer a Patient Ask a Question Reviewed by Deborah A. Fending, RN (April 01, 2019) Increased or decreased weight, stooped shoulders or bad breath from chronic infections often make you feel less attractive to your sexual partner. It is hard to feel motivated for sexual activity when you feel tired, depressed, unattractive, tense, or fearful. Fear is a common emotion you or your partner may have. You or your partner may worry that kissing or sexual activity will be suffocating. This may lead to avoiding sexual activity. It is also important to realize that being sexual means more than just having sexual intercourse. Holding and touching each other, as well as enjoying time together, are also important parts of loving and being loved. Intimacy is different from sexual intercourse and can be thought of as closeness. Sleep Clinical Trials For more than 100 years, National Jewish Health has been committed to finding new treatments and cures for diseases. Search our clinical trials.